“Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses.” – George Washington Carver
Think about a part of a relationship that you stuggle with. It can be your partner, kids, friends, coworkers, or barista at your favorite coffee shop. What is something that they do to not meet your expectations? Think of that one thing, and then ask youself did you tell them that is what you expected to happen. Often times we get dissappointed in people because we expect them to do something that they have no idea that we want them to do. Sometimes we think we should just know for them to do it. I am going to give a light harted example of this using the barista at the coffee shop. I like my coffee make a certain way. I don’t like a lot of cream added to it with just one sweetner. If I tell the barista to just put creasm and sugar in my coffee, then I have way too much of both in it. I am not like most people, I take very little of both in my coffee. If I don’t specifiy with them how I like it, then how can I expect to get it the way I want it? That’s how unnamed expectations are in relationships. If we don’t name it, then we shouldn’t expect it to happen.
I used to when we would travel places, I would just take the family there and not tell them what I expected to happen on the trip. There are many times where we walked more than we walked more than I told everyone we would, and I had some upset people with me later. I didn’t communicate what I expected everyone to do while on the trip. Now, I am very vocal about what I want to happen and so is everyone else. This way, we can all enjoy the trip like we want to. This was the case when we visited Anna Ruby Falls last spring break. I let everyone know that I was going to be taking a lot of photos because it a beautiful area. I captured these shots while I was hiking up to the base of the falls.
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